Love is blind to our physical world because it is a spiritual experience.
Now it came about when he had finished speaking to Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as himself. 1 Samuel 18:1
The Bible teaches and shows that love truly has no law.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law”. Galatians 5:22-23
And we can see this to be true in the intimate friendship of Jonathan and David. Their selfless and passionate love that they had for one another. Jonathan going against his father, king Saul, to help his friend whom He deeply loved and cherished as his own life. Making covenants with one another because of their deep and intense love that they held for each other. And in that deep and intense love, recognizing the God who brought them together. Recognizing the God who made them “one in spirit”, as the NIV version of scripture writes it.
We’ve taken this scripture and the story of Jonathan and David, and have failed to understand the spiritual writing that can help us as readers to understand why David and Jonathan loved each other so deeply. Understanding that the Bible is not just another ancient book, but it is also a spiritual book. Holding spiritual writing and undertones to who we are as human beings, as children of God.
There is a divine reason for Jonathan falling in love with the future king of Israel. And the spiritual part of the Bible gives us the answer.
“The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David”
In a past post entitled Do You Know What You Are?, I help us as readers of God’s Word to learn that we are spiritual beings having a physical experience. Teaching that we are souls in bodies just as the Bible teaches. We are God’s children. And "God is spirit" as Jesus tells us in John 4:24, therefore God made spiritual children. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 15:44 “if there is a natural body, there is also a spiritual body”. Our spiritual body is our soul, which was created first in Genesis 1. We then received our physical bodies and spirit when the Lord God formed Adam from the dust of the ground and breathed into the nostrils in Genesis 2:7. This is why, Genesis 1 and Genesis 2 have some differences because of how God made us (learn about the differences in The Differences of Genesis 1 and Genesis 2). He made us spiritual beings and then breathed into our formed bodies, which is why the Bible speaks of two Adams in 1 Corinthians 15:45. God is striving to show us who we are spiritually because who we are spiritually matters more to Him than this body of dust that will not last (Genesis 3:19). Understanding the first and the last Adam will help us understand who we are. (Learn what the Bible teaches about the first and last Adam in The Last Adam is Adam.)
Why did God knit Jonathan and David’s soul together?
In Genesis 1, all souls were 'one'. The first soul was that of Adam and Eve’s and God blessed them and told them to "be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it”. Adam and Eve did just that, they multiplied their soul which then made the soul of you and I and everyone that will be. They multiplied making other “male and female” souls. (I go more in depth in my post Be Fruitful and Multiply.) We can understand this to be true because when God gave a command in Genesis 1 the result happened without delay. Genesis 1:30 says, “and it was so”, which tells us that Adam and Eve instantly did as God commanded and multiplied their male and female soul. He wasn't talking to them in their physical form because Adam and Eve didn't have children until they were out of the garden of Eden in Genesis 4. Because it says "and it was so", Adam and Eve would have instantly needed to have a baby to begin to multiply as God told them if they were indeed in their physical form in Genesis 1. Therefore, since that did not happen, God was speaking to Adam and Eve in their spiritual state of being 'one' as male and female.
Jonathan and David soul, one of them holding the male and the other holding the female, was originally 'one'. But when sin entered the world with Adam and Eve, this separated all the male and female souls that were originally 'one' in the beginning. So, when God designed their paths to come together for His glory and purpose, God knit their soul together as it once was in the beginning.
This understanding might sound familiar to the concept called Twin Flames/Twin souls that are studied and experienced in other religions. Our soul has a "gender". It is either male or female but really we are both, one is just more dominant than the other.
Why did Jonathan and David love each other so deeply?
As I was doing research on love one day, I came across Plato Symposium. In there, one of the men strange understanding on love stood out. It was Aristophanes words. Aristophanes gives his understanding of the world at its beginning. He tells how we all were four-legged creatures with four arms and one head with two faces. These strange bodies were either two men, two women, or a man and woman combined. These advanced human beings were powerful and even tried to take down the Greek gods. Zeus didn’t like this, so he cut all of them in half. And so Aristophanes explains, now everyone is in search for their other half. Whether it be two men, two women, or those of the opposite-sex. We are all trying to find our other half we were originally joined with once before.
Understanding that this version of beginning that Plato describes is not true, we can recognize that we are all in search for our companion. Our spiritual male or female counterpart. We are all in search for that “friend that sticks closer than a brother” Proverbs 18:24. For the one whom our soul loves (Songs of Solomon 3:4). We are not looking for them to complete us because we are complete and whole in Christ. But we are looking for them so we can have someone to enjoy life with. To be with us during the tough times, someone to be intimate with. Someone to give us the company that our heart desires, so we are not alone. We all long for intimacy not only with Christ but also one another because we were once spiritually ‘one’. To be with the one whom your soul doesn't want to be without is beautiful. That’s why we are all amazed by marriages that last 40 and 50 plus years because they are so rare. God is still in the soul knitting business!
"People are attracted to each other because they connect on a profound spiritual level, not their gender or any other phenomenon" -Soul Travel Rules
Jonathan and David loved each other deeply because they have always loved each other since the beginning because they were 'one', they were the same. Their soul's were knit together because like all souls they were designed male and female. And just like male and female in the natural can become ‘one flesh’, the male and female can be knit and returned to God’s original design for His children, which is being 'one' in spirit. God didn’t design us as lone creatures. He designed us as intimate beings because love is intimacy. Which is why Christ wishes to be ‘one’ with us. For us to know Him and Him to know us intimately, which He already does but He wants us to realize it.
“I am distressed for you, my brother Jonathan; You have been very pleasant to me. Your love to me was more wonderful Than the love of women” 2 Samuel 1:26
For David, Jonathan’s love surpassed that which He had received or would receive from any woman because of how intimate Jonathan and David were. Jonathan and David had a spiritual connection, one that they could not have with any woman that was or would become their wife. David had many wives but he was only intimate with one soul and that was the soul of Jonathan. Jonathan had a wife named Rizpah which was his father, king Saul's concubine (learn more here). But David was the one whom He loved as his own life. David is Jonathan's friend who is as his own soul, which Moses speaks of in Deuteronomy 13:6. Having a spouse or sexual intercourse doesn't mean the individuals are in love (though it should), as we see with so many non-lasting marriages and "hook-ups" today.
Jonathan fell in love with David's soul, not his body
Some don’t want to recognize Jonathan and David’s relationship as anything more than platonic close friends because we have been conditioned to think that romantic love is restricted to that of the opposite-sex. People of the same sex are only to be platonic friends. But the Bible never says this and neither does it show this to be true. Remember, love has no law. It is clear that Jonathan and David were more than platonic friends. It is clear that these two men did not let their gender stop their intense love that they held for one another. They loved each other deeply and affectionately to the point that they made covenants of love to one another. They planned to be by one another side forever with God. And with their spiritual connection they would be.
"Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female" Matthew 19:4
We must get to the point where we understand that we are spiritual beings created in the image of God our Father. When we understand this, we can truly understand why love is blind. Love doesn’t see color, size, age (legally consenting), social status, finances, or physical sex (or the lack thereof). God is love and God is spirit, therefore, love is a spiritual experience controlled by God. Jesus tells us in Matthew 19:6, "what therefore God has joined together, let no man separate". The Bible is telling us even those in opposite-sex relationships are not fully in control of whom they love. God joins the male and the female soul back together as they were in Genesis 1, regardless of what the union looks like physically. Which is why we see same sex relationships today and have always seen down throughout our beginning.
Love is a spiritual experience. It’s absolutely blind to everything that we see here in the physical world.
All Love sees is Love.