God designed marriage as a spiritual and physical union. Only God can lead two individuals to come together spiritually, which is True Love.
Marriage is truly beautiful. But I’m not talking about the ceremony but rather the relationship because that’s what marriage is. God designed every detail of marriage. From the spiritual union to the physical union. God orchestrates it all but only if we let Him.
"Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, 'Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?' And He answered and said, 'Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.'"
How God Designed Marriage
Many of us go to Matthew chapter 19 to see what Jesus teaches on divorce. But when Jesus answers the question from the Pharisees, He is actually showing the Pharisees, and us today, how God designed marriage. Jesus is basically showing that God designed marriage perfectly, so there is no need for divorce.
“Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female” Matthew 19:4
Spiritual Union of Marriage
Jesus, in the first part of His statement, takes us back to Genesis 1:27. Genesis 1:27 says, “God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them”. We have been taught that this is mankind in the natural or physical state of being. But there is a problem with that teaching because scripture says that “God created man in His own image”. So, scripture is saying that we look like God, we resemble God. Well, what is God? God is not flesh and bones, so flesh and bones is not the image of God. Jesus, in John 4:24 says, “God is spirit”. So, when we go back to read Genesis 1:27 or even Genesis 1:26, which says, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness”. God is telling us that He made us spiritually because He is spirit. He made our soul, which is Man’s true being and life (read Do You Know What You Are?).
“What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate” Matthew 19:6
God Joins Marriages
“What therefore God has joined together”. Jesus tells the Pharisees that God has joined the “male and female” together making them ‘one’. In the natural only a man and a woman can become ‘one flesh’. In the spiritual, it is the same thing. Only the male and the female can become ‘one’ in spirit. We can see this to be true with the story of Jonathan and David. 1 Samuel 18:1 says, “the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David”. And the NIV writes it as, “Jonathan became one in spirit with David”. The soul of Jonathan and the soul of David were originally ‘one’ in the beginning when God created Man in Genesis 1:27. Remember, after God created Man He blessed Man and said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it”. The male and female soul that was ‘one’ in Genesis 1 made other male and female souls that were ‘one’, as commanded by God (learn more in Be Fruitful and Multiply). After God finished instructing them, verse 30 of Genesis 1 says, “and it was so”. Everything that happened in Genesis 1 happened right away without a delay. God spoke it and then it happened. Adam and Eve did not have children until they were out of the garden of Eden in Genesis 4. Childbirth wasn’t even mentioned until God was removing them out of the garden in Genesis 3:16. Because verse 30 says, “and it was so”, Adam and Eve would have needed to bear a child right away to keep with the overall image of Genesis 1, which was God speaking it and then it happening.
Essentially, Jesus is telling us and the Pharisees that the two that are married should be joined together by God, making them spiritually ‘one’. The two individuals have a natural body, but they also have a spiritual body that is created in God’s image and likeness. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 15:44, “If there is a natural body, there is also a spiritual body”. The two individuals that are spiritually ‘one’ would be what some presently call Twin Flames (learn more about Twin Flames in Biblical Evidence of Twin Flames).
“and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh” Matthew 19:5
Physical Union of Marriage
Now, Jesus goes from Genesis 1 to Genesis 2. The two chapters are slightly different because Genesis 1 is showing how God created Man spiritually and Genesis 2 is showing how God formed Man naturally (read The Differences of Genesis 1 and Genesis 2). Jesus, in His second part of answering the question explains that a man will leave his mother and father and become ‘one flesh’ with his wife. So, Jesus tells us the way God designed marriage is to be ‘one’ spiritually and then to become ‘one’ naturally. In the Bible marriage is not the ceremony, which is why we don’t see marriage ceremonies in the Bible. Even with the story of Adam and Eve, there was no ceremony pronouncing them husband and wife, or married. What made Adam and Eve married was being made 'one flesh'. But we know ceremonies happened because Jesus did His first miracle at a wedding.
Marriage is Becoming One Flesh
How God designed marriage is the act of being or becoming ‘one’ (learn more in Why Jesus WOULD Officiate a Same-sex Wedding). When Jesus answers the Pharisees, He never speaks of the wedding ceremony, but He speaks on being ‘one’ spiritually and naturally. Jesus says, “they are no longer two, but one flesh”, the couple’s oneness is what makes them husband and wife in the natural, thus, making them married. Which is why a certificate of divorce cannot undue the marriage because marriage is being ‘one flesh’. This is why Jesus says, “whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery”. Jesus was not taking about the ceremony when He says, “marries”, He was talking about becoming ‘one flesh’. For the divorced couple, unless one individual in the marriage does something sexually immoral, the other person in the marriage will commit adultery. Jesus says that in Matthew 5:32, “but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery”. A divorce does not do anything to end a marriage because marriage is not the ceremony or the certificate. Marriage is the act of being or becoming ‘one’.
Marriage is more than what we can see with our natural eyes. Marriage has a spiritual aspect to it that only God is in control of, if we allow Him to be. We must let God guide us to whomever our husband or wife is, if it is God’s will for an individual to marry. In Matthew 19:12, Jesus gives us a class of people that would not marry (read The LGBTQ+ Community are Present Day Eunuchs). Remember, marriage is not the ceremony, but rather being ‘one flesh’. So, when Jesus tell us of those that would not marry, He was speaking of those that cannot or would voluntarily abstain from becoming ‘one flesh’.
Love is Spiritual
What we see in the physical world may not be what God had planned for an individual in the spiritual world. Remember, we have a natural body, but we also have a spiritual body, 1 Corinthians 15:44. As children of God, we should only get married (ceremony and/or ‘one flesh’) if God has made us spiritually ‘one’ with the other person or has led us to a person. Just as He made Jonathan and David “one in spirit”. One should not get married because of traditions, or because the person is of the opposite sex, or because the individual looks good. One should marry because they are in Love. Because they have a passionate unconditional love for the other person. Marriage is to be in Love. The purpose of marriage is Love. The purpose of marriage is not reproduction. Some marriages cannot reproduce (read God’s Barren Women). The purpose of marriage is True Love.