The LGBTQ+ Community are eunuchs. Some cannot become ‘one flesh’ and others choose not to because they are in love with someone of their own sex.
“The disciples said to Him, ‘If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.’ But He said to them, ‘Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it.’”
This small and rare group of people that Jesus has described to the disciples are people that cannot or voluntarily do not marry. But if we look closely at Jesus’ statement, we should take notice that Jesus is describing a type of people that have no physical way of having sexual intercourse (becoming 'one flesh') or they do but they choose not to. Remember, only a man and a woman can have sexual intercourse, and when the do they are reenacting how God made marriage in the beginning with Adam and Eve making them “one flesh” (read Why Jesus WOULD Officiate a Same-Sex Wedding to learn how God designed marriage). So, the two individuals that are having sexual intercourse are now married in the eyes of God because they have become “one flesh”.
Let’s breakdown Matthew 19:12.
"Born that Way"
The first group of eunuchs, Jesus describes as being “born that way from their mother’s womb”. Today, this group is known as intersex. Some intersex individuals can engage in sexual intercourse, but some cannot or will need surgery to do so (see here). This is due to their external genitalia being ambiguous (learn more here). This group of people are physically unable to engage in sexual intercourse, which is the main reason why they held the position of being in charge or support to the wives of kings during that time. The kings wouldn’t have to worry about the men having sexual relations with their wives because they were physically unable to. So, Jesus was describing a group of people that cannot marry in the sense of becoming “one flesh”. But these individuals are fully capable of loving and receiving love intimately and making a commitment to one individual.
Made that Way
The second group of eunuchs Jesus describes are those who would be “made eunuchs by men”. These are men that would be castrated, meaning their testes removed and/or full removal of the penis. And with doing some research the men who had their whole reproductive organ removed had a tube-like object put in that area for urination (learn more here). Therefore, again, Jesus was describing a group of people that would not be able to have sexual intercourse. Which means, this group of eunuchs would not be able to take part in the way God designed marriage in Genesis 2, which is to become 'one flesh'. He was not saying they would never fall in love or make a covenant of love with another individual.
Made Themselves that Way
The last group of eunuchs are those who He explains has “made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven”. The definition in the picture above says, “one who voluntarily abstains from marriage”. So, these individuals do not marry in the sense of becoming 'one flesh' for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. These individuals have the means to engage in sexual intercourse, thus, being married in the eyes of God, but they voluntarily abstain from becoming “one flesh”. When most people see this verse, they see these individuals as single or celibate, never being deeply in love with another person. But we should take notice of the life of Jesus. Jesus belonged in this class of eunuchs because though He had the physical capacity to become “one flesh”, He did not “for the sake of the kingdom of heaven”. When He says, "for the sake of the kingdom of heaven”, He is telling us God did not spiritually join this group of people to someone of the opposite sex. It is God who joins us together in love, “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate” (Matthew 19:6) this is why Jesus says, "for the sake of the kingdom of heaven”, which is the kingdom of God. Jesus loved someone deeply and the Bible describes him as “the disciple whom Jesus loved”. John 13:23 says, “there was reclining on Jesus’ bosom one of His disciples, whom Jesus loved”. Jesus loved all His disciples and all people, but He shared a special love with John, the disciple whom Jesus loved. Jesus and John shared an intimate friendship because they were spiritually 'one' (learn more in Agapao), but they could not become "one flesh" because they were both men. (learn more in Jesus was a Sexual Minority in His Day).
Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
When Jesus talks about this class of people that would not marry, He describes people that would not be able to have or would voluntarily abstain from sexual intercourse, which makes these individuals eunuchs in the eyes of God. But He never says these people would not give or receive love in an intimate way. The Bible constantly talks about companionship, friendship, and marriage because all are beautiful in His eyes. Just like the friendship of Jonathan and David. Two intimate friends who loved each other as their own life (read Two Hearts Become One). It is a friendship because though the two men are 'one' spiritually they cannot become 'one' in the flesh. A husband and wife are husband and wife because they can become 'one flesh'. They are 'one' in the spirit and they can become 'one' in the flesh.
Eunuchs are not people who will never have intimate love with another person. Jesus never says that, nor does He show that with His own life.
If an individual does not marry in the sense of becoming “one flesh” that does not mean they will be single or that God is asking them to not have intimacy. We are intimate beings. We serve an intimate God. We were made spiritually intimate in Genesis 1 (learn more in Be Fruitful and Multiply). Which is why when we are born, we come here craving the love and intimacy we once had in Genesis 1. Being intimate with God first and finding our wholeness in Him, He will lead us to the one whom we were once spiritually ‘one’ with before, in whatever way that is unique to who we are as an individual (which is not always sexual). Jesus wasn’t submitting eunuchs to a life of singleness, or in other words, lack of intimacy for the sake of God’s kingdom. He was saying they would not become “one flesh”, which is to be married. To become “one flesh” one must be in love with someone of the opposite sex.
God never asks us to abstain from love and intimacy.
God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. 1 John 4:16