Part 4 of 5: Observing how the Bible shows intimate friendship between two individuals of the same gender.
The story of Jonathan and David beautifully shows from the beginning what is happening spiritually between the two men.
The Knitting Together of Souls
1 Samuel 18 begins with saying, “Now it came about when he had finished speaking to Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as himself”. That was the New American Standard Bible, the New International Version writes, “…Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself”. The two souls, the male and the female, return to their state of “oneness” as they were originally created by God in Genesis 1. Now, we can answer the question of, what binds two people of the same gender in intimate friendship? Again, the answer is true love. God only knits souls together that were originally “one” in the beginning.
Intimacy with Love Himself
When reading 1 Samuel 18:1, the reader should understand, the Bible in its fullness is the inspired Word of God. It is “God-breathed” as Paul tells us in 2 Timothy 3:16. The Holy Spirit gave Samuel, the writer of 1 Samuel, spiritual insight into what was happening spiritually between Jonathan and David. Jonathan and David expressed and experience intense love for one another. They made covenants with each other because their love was defined and brought together by God. God calls David “a man after My heart, who will do all My will” in Acts 13:22. Jonathan recognized God in his friendship with David at all times, “The Lord will be between me and you, and between my descendants and your descendants forever” 1 Samuel 20:42. Jonathan and David loved the Lord with the fullness of their heart, just like Jesus instructs us to in the New Testament. Matthew 22:37-38 writes, "Jesus said to him, ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment". When God brought Jonathan and David souls back together, they shared in their love for God and for one another. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “…A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart”. God is what brought them together, and God is who would keep them together.
Love is Felt in the Heart
The love that David and Jonathan shared was “more wonderful than the love of women”, David proclaims in 2 Samuel 1:26. David writes after learning of king Saul and Jonathan’s death, “I am distressed for you, my brother Jonathan; you have been very pleasant to me. Your love to me was more wonderful than the love of women”. Gender does not determine how much two individuals love each other; God determines the love. Jonathan and David were spiritually one, spiritually intimate before they ever entered Earth physically. These were not just two men deeply in love; these were two souls deeply in love. Love goes beyond the body and touches the heart because Love is spiritual. God is Agape, Philia, Storge, and Eros; He controls who we fall in love with and how we fall in love with them. But we must be connected with Him in deep intimacy and trust, giving Him our lives to use for His glory and His glory alone.
Love is not What We See
God seen more than a man and man in love with one another when bringing together Jonathan and David. God seen the male and the female soul that was once “one”, so, He knitted them together again for eternity. This is the definition of true love in all types of relationships.