Part 2 of 5: Understanding how God made intimate friendship between a man and woman in the bond of marriage.
Now with understanding how God made “man” in Genesis 1 and Genesis 2, we, as readers of His Word, can look at Jesus’ statement with more clarification.
Focusing on Jesus' Statement to the Pharisees
Jesus statement to the Pharisees in Matthew 19, He explains why there is no need for divorce by saying, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate”. Remember, the first part of Jesus’ statement is from Genesis 1, when He says, “He who created them from the beginning made them male and female”. Then Jesus goes to Genesis 2, by saying, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”. Let us look at these statements and make the connection that Jesus made to the Pharisees.
Connecting Genesis 1 and Genesis 2
Genesis 1:27 says, “God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them”. Remember, when the verse says him, that is Adam’s soul. But then the verse goes on to say “them”, this is Adam and Eve soulfully/spiritually one. Verse 28 says, “God blessed them; and God said to them”, this statement is telling the reader that Adam and Eve are one soulfully/spiritually. Therefore, because Adam and Eve are spiritually one when God tells them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it” they multiply their spiritual oneness because they are one soul. So, when we go to Genesis 2, first we read that Adam is formed in verse seven “of the dust from the ground”. But if we continue on to when He makes Eve, or “Woman”, the Lord God does something unique to symbolize their unity/oneness in the spirit. Verse twenty-one and twenty-two says that the Lord God opened Adam’s side and took one of his ribs, and He “fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from man”. In the next verse Adam says, “this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man”. The chapter ends with verse twenty-four and twenty-five, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed”. Because Adam and Eve were soulfully/spiritually one in Genesis 1:27, the Lord God made Adam’s “suitable helper”, Eve, naturally as well by taking a rib out of Adam’s side. Remember, what God does in the natural, He also does in the spiritual. This is the physical oneness of marriage through the flesh as the Lord God made for those who are joined by God soulfully/spiritually.
Understanding Jesus' Statement to the Pharisees
Now when we look back at Jesus statement to the Pharisees in Matthew 19, we should take notice of how He brings the two chapters together for us to understand. “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate”. The man and the woman are spiritually one in the eyes of God, as they once were. Therefore, because of the way the Lord God made the first husband and wife, the man and woman are now to become physically “one” through sexual intercourse as design by their differing sexual anatomies.
Answering Part of the Question in the Title
Looking at Jesus statement to the Pharisees we can effectively answer the question of, what binds two individuals of the opposite gender in intimate friendship? The simple answer, true love. Jesus says this Himself in Matthew 19, “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate”. 1 John 4:8, the apostle John tells us, “God is love”. So, love Himself joins the once spiritually “one” soul together like it originally was in the beginning. And because the two individuals are of the opposite gender, they become “one flesh” as designed in Genesis 2, to reenact how God made marriage.
Love is spiritual because God is spirit. God rejoins us together with whom we were once spiritually one with from the beginning when He created us in Genesis 1. What then separated us, to where now we must be joined back together as we originally were? Sin.